Friendzone

Honestly, I was going to write a companion post to the whole "Good Guy" thing, but I came across this link a few weeks ago and, while it's not something I 100% agree with, it has some rather good points.

First, I figure that I'd mention that there's an article about it on Wikipedia which explains what it is:

In popular culture, the "friend zone" refers to a platonic relationship where one person wishes to enter into a romantic relationship while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation by the lovelorn person. Once the friend zone is established, it is said to be difficult to move beyond that point in a relationship.

Secondly, the post about friendzoning, itself, is rather lengthy, though it's an interesting read. It's right over here, if you're interested Though it's got a lot of curse words, so avoid reading this around kids.

Anniversaries

Since Ethan and I had our anniversary last Thursday, I figured I'd cover this. Anniversaries are an important part of dating. I mean, it's when you started dating, though I think that's pretty obvious. It's good to do cute things for your anniversary like go out to a nice restaurant or just have a date together no matter what or spend some time together at home. Even if you're in a long distance relationship, you could go on a Skype/Tinychat/Veemoo/etc. date and be together like that. Be happy together and try and spend as much time as possible with each other. If, for some reason you can't be together that day (work, school, etc.), then ask them ahead of time to see if you can reschedule your date/together time. If one of you or both of you, by chance, forgets your anniversary, it might hurt your significant other and that's not something that you want to happen. Especially in a long distance relationship. Because you can't readily see them, spending more time with them via Skype/Tinychat/etc is even more special and crucial because you don't get to spend as much time together as you'd like, especially in person. So, spend as much time as you can with your S/O because it's good quality time with someone that you love.

In regard to my last post and the comments

The one about the whole "Good Guy" syndrome

But I don't completely believe that there is a black and white classification to people. But, there are the extremes that adhere to that whole "Good Guy" thing that only want one thing and get upset when they don't get it.

There are always going to be jerks out there, of any gender, who are in a friendship so they can go out with a person and take it much farther. They tend to get really mad that they couldn't "get with" someone that they had their eye one because of whatever reason (that person wasn't interested, that person doesn't want a relationship, that person is already in a relationship, etc)

But there are people out there that don't try for relationship and end up in one because they are genuinely are being a cool person. That's pretty much how I ended up with Ethan.

Now, I know a bunch of people who went out with their friends and realized that they really just wanted to be friends and ended the relationship. And, y'know, that's totally fine. Trying things out and realizing that they do or don't work is part of life.

My thing is the "good guys" that complain about not getting the person they've been eying up and getting upset about them being "friendzoned" and coming up with elaborate ways to bring down that person and say everyone of x gender is a no good [insult of your choice] and that's why no one like x gender.

Things like "All men are scum" and "All women are sleazy" and the like bother me because it's blanket terms over one gender because someone's all bent out of shape because they were rejected.

I figure, you get rejected, you cut your losses and move on to someone who would be more suited to you and your tastes. Don't let rejection get you too down because it's not good for you. Just move on and don't get hung up on what could have been and go find out what can be.